The month of Elul is an acronym for "Ani Ledodi Vedodi Li", "I am to my Beloved and my Beloved is to me". Every relationship in this world was created to further develop our relationship with G-d. The ultimate relationship in our lives is marriage.
(See Video Below:)
Husband are wife and "loving friends". The word "friend" in hebrew comes from the word "shepperd". A shepperd does not cares for, guards, and protects his sheep. He does not ask for a "thank you" from them. The word "love" in hebrew means "to give". If you want to love, you have to give.
If you watch a nursing mother, you will see that the more she nurses, the more milk she gets. If she stops nursing, the milk dries up. In a relationship, if you stop giving, the love "dries up". Start giving to get more love!
An unfortunate concurrent issue in our society is intermarriage. The Rebbetzin says regarding intermarriages, "If you do not come from similar backgrounds, similar homes, and you do not share a common heritage, then no matter how hard you try, your mate will never "fit" you properly. You may love him even as you love those shoes, but they are not your size - he is not made for you. You come from different worlds, from different roots. And should you marry, three things can occur: You may develop calluses (live amidst strife), leave the shoes in the closet (settle for a marriage based on icy indifference), or you may give the shoes to rummage (terminate the marriage in divorce). In any event, none of these options is desirable.
"The fact is that much more than romantic love is needed for a successful marriage. Love is not a magic potion which can dissolve knotty problems. Love can only serve to enhance a marriage in which mutual esteem and reverence already exists, a marriage which is bound by common roots and goals".
In the month that we are working on our relationship with G-d, we should be looking to improve our relationships with others. If we bring G-d into our marriages, it will work!!
(See Video Below:)
Husband are wife and "loving friends". The word "friend" in hebrew comes from the word "shepperd". A shepperd does not cares for, guards, and protects his sheep. He does not ask for a "thank you" from them. The word "love" in hebrew means "to give". If you want to love, you have to give.
If you watch a nursing mother, you will see that the more she nurses, the more milk she gets. If she stops nursing, the milk dries up. In a relationship, if you stop giving, the love "dries up". Start giving to get more love!
An unfortunate concurrent issue in our society is intermarriage. The Rebbetzin says regarding intermarriages, "If you do not come from similar backgrounds, similar homes, and you do not share a common heritage, then no matter how hard you try, your mate will never "fit" you properly. You may love him even as you love those shoes, but they are not your size - he is not made for you. You come from different worlds, from different roots. And should you marry, three things can occur: You may develop calluses (live amidst strife), leave the shoes in the closet (settle for a marriage based on icy indifference), or you may give the shoes to rummage (terminate the marriage in divorce). In any event, none of these options is desirable.
"The fact is that much more than romantic love is needed for a successful marriage. Love is not a magic potion which can dissolve knotty problems. Love can only serve to enhance a marriage in which mutual esteem and reverence already exists, a marriage which is bound by common roots and goals".
In the month that we are working on our relationship with G-d, we should be looking to improve our relationships with others. If we bring G-d into our marriages, it will work!!
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